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Top 5 Rejected Names
Now that we know we’re having a boy, the search for a name has begun in earnest. I’ve been looking through the family history, back to the 1600’s, and have compiled a list of names that probably won’t make the final cut:
- Abijah
- Alfred
- Caleb
- Lloyd
- Shubael
Helpful, eh? Kandis and I have discussed some names that might be worthy of a short list, which will be finalized in the coming months (or sooner).
Now, I feel compelled to add a disclaimer so that those of you whose name might be in this list won’t get too worked up. I don’t dislike the names, and I think some of them are quite distinguished. None of them seem quite right for us, though. So, to all of you Abijahs out there who might stumble upon this blog: please don’t take offense. Your name is great, we just won’t be using it for our child. Thanks!
Panic Onset
Finally, I’ve started to panic! No panic attacks yet, but I did wake up from a dream this morning with the following thought: “Holy %&#$, my day-to-day routine will never be the same, and the way Kandis and I interact is going to change drastically. There will be no more ‘Rob and Kandis’ as we know it!”
I’m not sure why this thought is so frightening to me now. For years, it was a thought that kept me from wanting to have a child, but I thought I’d come to be at peace with that concept over the past year. In fact, coming to terms with, accepting, and then embracing that thought were what guided me in my decision that the time is right for a child. I still think it is right, and I’m looking forward to having a little guy running around the house that I can play with. In fact, I’m really excited about it.
Parenthood will bring many moments of panic, I’m sure – especially given my tendency towards anxiety. While we’re on the subject, here are some other things that worry me:
- The child will get seriously ill in their first couple of years of life. I feel guilty for even thinking this.
- No matter how hard we try to teach them to do the right thing, they will turn out to be a problem child.
- There will be a strain on the marriage.
- The child will inherit my anxiety.
It’s certainly possible that any one or all four of those fears could become reality. The key will be for me to be able to adapt to the situation and — if possible – do what I can to fix it. And, yes, my relationship with Kandis will change, but we will still have the same love and respect for each other that we do now. I don’t think I’d be out of line in suggesting that our bond will grow even tighter.
How has parenthood changed your life?
A Boy!
Today’s appointment went very well. We got a clear picture of the baby, and I can now refer to it as “him” and know that I’m using the correct pronoun! The doctors told us that the anatomy looks good, and everything is progressing normally. The picture on the right is a bit small, but the head and torso are clearly visible. The spine is also quite easy to see once you orient yourself by finding the head.
The downside to having a boy: I have to give them the birds and bees talk. That’s a few years off, though, so I have some time to think about it.
